How to Overcome Pornography: Employ the Aid of Accountability Partners

I’ve always heard that a problem shared is half solved. Well, the statement may not be entirely true but I know that in this context it does apply. What I’m saying in essence is that you should have a group of people you can talk to and you can report your progress to. These people are referred to as accountability partners. You are accountable to them.

Your accountability partners should be friends you can trust, parents who can understand you, your pastor to give you sound spiritual guidance and maybe even fellow addicts who have been able to overcome their own problem too. You may not necessarily hold meetings with these people but you should talk to them regularly. The truth is, the journey out of porn addiction is not easy and there will be time when you will feel dirty again God will seem far away and you will feel unworthy to talk to Him so these are people you can always turn back to. They will advise you and help you through the rough patch.

Your accountability partners will also help you monitor your progress and see how far you’ve come. Remember to be very honest with them, and despite the temptation to try to look good before them, remember that that will not help you either. So you must come clean before them. That is the only way they can help you.

How to Overcome Pornography: Cut Off Your Sources

The next step to take in overcoming porn addiction after admitting it is a problem that can ruin you and identifying your triggers is to cut off your sources. Cutting off your sources is as practical a step as it gets and it involves a whole lot of self-discipline and self-assurance that you are ready to take your recovery up a notch. It implies that you are ready to be really serious with your recovery from porn addiction.

Cutting off your sources is a simple step. It involves breaking all those DVDs and CDs, using softwares on your computer to block all those sites you usually visit. At this point you really need to build up your self-discipline. Friends can also help you out here. You can ask a friend to put in a password for that software so you won’t be able to access those pornographic sites. You can also deprive yourself of internet services as long as possible to help you curb the addiction and ultimately put it out.

Moreover, if you are the type that gets access through your phone, that is your internet data plan and your BlackBerry subscription supports you in this wise, it is time you let go of that phone. Either you cut off your internet subscription so you can only browse in public places or you change your phone to one that cannot access the internet. This is for your own good and as I said earlier, it requires a whole lot of self-discipline.

At all cost you must sever all ties with things that grant you easy access to the internet and eventually to porn sites.

When Are You Most Vulnerable to Give in to the Temptations?

We have established the effects that watching porn has on people now we want to look at the times when the temptation to watch it is strongest and when people are most vulnerable to give in to his temptation.

1. When you’re emotionally exhausted. This is one of the easiest times for anyone to fall into temptations. Emotions and performance go together. The better your emotions, the better your performance. Performance here refers the way we do things. When you’re emotionally exhausted, you get edgy easily. You’re too tired and you may not be able to resist much. Therefore, the temptation comes at a time like this.
2. When you are discouraged. It is easy to get

One More Thing To Note About Porn Addiction

While in my prayer time, I was mulling over the series I started on 'How to Overcome Porn Addiction' and the Holy Spirit reminded me of the most vital step towards recovering from this addiction. Earlier in the day I had seen two different videos on this topic as a form of research and in order to improve my content. What I noticed is that I have neglected the most important step. This step trumps any of the 7 steps to recovery and it is quite easy to remember. It is that you can never achieve freedom without understanding the place of Christ and the Grace He provides us.

Furthermore, the comment on the most recent step made me realize this. We can never achieve freedom from the addiction to porn if we do not even understand that it was what Christ died for. Christ died to set us free from the works of Satan and and sin. Pornography is still just the same sin as lying. There's no need to sugar-coat it. God sees the liar, the murderer, the adulterer and the porn addict as all the same: sinners. but the good thing is that God doesn't condemn them. He loves them as much as He loves those who are already sin-free.

How to Overcome Pornography: Identify Your Triggers

We have looked at the first step to recovery and overcoming porn addiction. We understand that we must acknowledge the problem can ruin us before we can actually overcome the addiction. The next step to overcoming porn addiction is to identify those things that trigger your craving to watch it. Different people have different triggers. For some people, it’s an emotion that triggers it and for some others it is something they see that triggers them. Whoever you are, and you’re addicted to porn, there is a particular thing that will trigger the longing within you. It is your responsibility to identify what that trigger is. I call it your responsibility because, quite frankly, no one will do it for you. It’s for you to take responsibility for yourself and step up your game if you truly want to rid yourself of this addiction.

How to Overcome Pornography: Step 1- Acknowledge the Problem Can Ruin You

So, we finally begin examining the 7-step solution to overcoming porn addiction. The first and most important step is to acknowledge that you have a problem that can ruin you. Until you get to this point of 'brokenness' and helplessness you will never realize that all your efforts to come out or stop are but futile. Also, you must come to the conclusion that it is totally wrong and against God's law to do it. The reason I am pointing this out is because I know people who do not think that watching porn is wrong. They have no problem with it. Well, I do not stand to castigate their belief but from my own understanding of life and Faith, it is a sexual sin against the body and thus, it is wrong. Furthermore, if you do not acknowledge it as a problem, there is no way what I am writing will be useful to you.

Therefore, the first step to 'recovery' here is to admit that you have a problem and that you need a solution. If not, you will stay the same.

How to Overcome Pornography Series: How Pornography Ruins Your Sex Life

Read this, I got it from Mark Manson's website:

According to science, porn trains our brains to release more endorphins (a chemical in the brain that relieves us of pain in some ways) than is natural in response to an overload of sexual stimuli. After a while, our brains become less and less sensitive and develop a need for higher and higher stimuli in order to reach the same arousal and excitement. Thus begins the spiral into more hardcore porn and higher quantities of it. In some cases, people can develop a psychological addiction to pornography and it can begin to interfere with their sex and social lives. In rare cases it can be weakening in both.

HOW TO OVERCOME PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION

In my life, I have come to discover that people have problems and closeted issues they are not proud of. They have problems they think they cannot deal with or issues they are too afraid to face. Many times, they do not even know how to face these issues. The issues are addictions and they are ruining lives and relationships daily. Of all the issues I know, PORNOGRAPHY seems to be the most prominent and rampart yet, the one people least admit to. Yeah, porn, as it is popularly called, has damaged several lives, marriages and destinies. The amount of children who have been exposed to pornography is overwhelming to the extent that it is now becoming a global issue. Yet no one seems to be doing much about it. I walk into rooms and then I see a fellow with the guilty look on his face. He’s feeling bad about what he just did; right before I walked in. It is so easy to access porn. Just a click of your mouse and SWOOP, you’re in. With all said and done, people need to know how they can overcome this cankerworm that is eating them up inside. The truth is, some people do not see anything wrong with it. Here are some reasons to stop watching porn in the first place: