How to Become a Person of Value

We’ve talked about the Law of Value Addition (Read about it here) and now it is important we learn how to become such persons. So here are simple ways through which you can become a person who’s constantly making life better for others (these are but a few, the list is inexhaustible):

How to Identify Low Self-Esteem

It's easy to want to teach people how to develop their self-esteem when some folks don't even know where they stand. So, for the next few days or so, I'm going to point out to you how to know where you stand. After now, you'll be able to identify if your self-esteem is low, or high or unhealthy. Here's how to identify low self-esteem:

1. You're always looking to other people for approval. You an never feel adequate and good enough for anything. You live on complements and other's appraisals.
2. Criticisms kill your morale. No one is allowed to say something 'candid' about you. If they do, you'll be downcast till kingdom come.

How to Overcome Pornography: Employ the Aid of Accountability Partners

I’ve always heard that a problem shared is half solved. Well, the statement may not be entirely true but I know that in this context it does apply. What I’m saying in essence is that you should have a group of people you can talk to and you can report your progress to. These people are referred to as accountability partners. You are accountable to them.

Your accountability partners should be friends you can trust, parents who can understand you, your pastor to give you sound spiritual guidance and maybe even fellow addicts who have been able to overcome their own problem too. You may not necessarily hold meetings with these people but you should talk to them regularly. The truth is, the journey out of porn addiction is not easy and there will be time when you will feel dirty again God will seem far away and you will feel unworthy to talk to Him so these are people you can always turn back to. They will advise you and help you through the rough patch.

Your accountability partners will also help you monitor your progress and see how far you’ve come. Remember to be very honest with them, and despite the temptation to try to look good before them, remember that that will not help you either. So you must come clean before them. That is the only way they can help you.

WHAT I LEARNT FROM A CRICKET by Austin Queensly (@AustinQueensly)

Swoosh! Swish! The water came in from all directions to drown this annoying little pest but it was apparently to no avail. This little thing held on to dear life like it had a family somewhere in its little cricket world. Or it had a job that it made a lot of money from and/or derived fulfillment.

What my fascination with this cricket was, I could not really place. However, reflecting on it a few hours later, I realized that it bordered on ‘pride’; pride that I could not get rid of an insignificant insect/pest easily. I definitely took the scripture from Philippians 3:12b out of context in my determination to get rid of this cricket from what I considered my personal space at least for the moment.

“Finally! Victory!!”… I shouted excitedly when with a final gush, I flushed the cricket down the laundry drain.

Perseverance is a word that has many synonyms and has been used severally by humans when describing themselves and is especially recurrent in resumes and cover letters. But in the real sense of the word, it is a rarity to find humans who possess that attribute regardless of gender, age, or race.

How to Deal With Difficult People

You will agree with me that people are different. This difference in personalities makes some people compatible while some others aren't. You will also agree with me that no matter where we find ourselves -at work, in school, at home and in public places- we will always come across people who are difficult to relate with. Some of these people are proud while some others just lack good communication skills. You will also agree with me that it is important for you to know how to get along with people so that life can be much easier for you. The more able you are to adapt to people's personalities, the better your chances are at living a freer life. Here's how you can deal with such difficult people:

HOW TO ENJOY WHAT YOU DO: TIP 5

Embrace the positives. Learn from and then ignore the negatives. No matter how hard or bad something is, there’s usually a bit of positivity to it as it is negative too. So dwell more on positivity than on negativity. Don’t ignore negative responses and feedbacks. Examine them, see what you can learn from them and then do away with them. Most times, improvement lies in negativity but dwelling on the negatives will only make you hate things more than ever. So instead, try to identify the positives in your work and embrace those positives.

HOW TO ENJOY WHAT YOU DO: TIP 4

Understand what can make you happy and what makes you unhappy. Realize I did not say understand what makes you happy because in the first place you won’t be reading this article if you knew how to make yourself happy. But you must understand that happiness needs to come in if you must enjoy what you do. Also, know yourself enough to know what and what makes you unhappy- how and why it makes you unhappy. When you have discovered this, it is now your responsibility to avoid what makes you unhappy and embrace those things that can make you happy from that work. If you can’t find anything in that environment that can make you happy then I suggest you can bring in external sources of happiness into your work. I think that’ll help.

HOW TO ENJOY WHAT YOU DO: TIP 3

Set a reward for every task you accomplish. For example, if you like to watch movies, you can set that as a reward for yourself. For each time you accomplish a task, you get to watch a movie or buy yourself something. Make sure you do not reward yourself without accomplishing that task. Again this is where proactivity needs to come in and you must also be disciplined enough not to cheat yourself.

Help! I'm Addicted to Watching Movies...

Someone asked me to write a piece on how to curb movie addiction so here it is. I'm not much of a TV fan so I guess I may not know much about this but one thing I know is this "where your treasure is, there your heart lies." That's the basic principle that guides this sort of thing. You've got to search deep and ask yourself: "what are my priorities? what are the most important things in my life?" Once you're able to answer this question you're on your way to freedom.

Furthermore, the more time you spend doing more important things, the less time you have to watch movies. Also, it is important that you discipline yourself and learn how to pray to God everyday and study your Bible as well. In the process of doing this you begin to gain perspective on how important times is how much you need to invest and preserve all the time you have. You haven't got all the time in the world.

How to Overcome Pornography: Identify Your Triggers

We have looked at the first step to recovery and overcoming porn addiction. We understand that we must acknowledge the problem can ruin us before we can actually overcome the addiction. The next step to overcoming porn addiction is to identify those things that trigger your craving to watch it. Different people have different triggers. For some people, it’s an emotion that triggers it and for some others it is something they see that triggers them. Whoever you are, and you’re addicted to porn, there is a particular thing that will trigger the longing within you. It is your responsibility to identify what that trigger is. I call it your responsibility because, quite frankly, no one will do it for you. It’s for you to take responsibility for yourself and step up your game if you truly want to rid yourself of this addiction.

HOW TO ENJOY WHAT YOU DO: TIP 2

Be proactive, no matter what the environment is like. Look for ways that you can input your own methods and ideas. Even if your boss is a rigid person, find your way around his rigidity. That’s what proactivity is all about. Proactivity also includes you being agile. It means that you mustn’t let a ‘no’ or a rejection keep you from doing what you’re doing. Add fun into it. Own your work and make it like your own personal kingdom where you’re lord over all.

HOW TO ENJOY WHAT YOU DO

I know you’ve seen a lot of articles and heard several people say that you should do what you enjoy. However, I am glad to announce to you that that won’t always be the case. We are now in a world wherein you have to learn how to motivate yourself regardless where you find yourself. The other thing is that we know life isn’t fair enough to give us all what we deserve so many are times we have to learn to motivate ourselves even if we may not enjoy our environment. Furthermore, you are going to have to learn how to enjoy your work even if you feel all is well at the time. Here’s my own little formula on how to make sure you stay motivated and enjoy your work no matter what you’re doing- even if it’s school work or menial chores, you’ve got to enjoy it. So I'm going to this bit by bit. A new tip for each new day. ENJOY!.

TIP FOR TODAY: The first and easiest way to make sure you stay motivated and enjoy what you do is to turn it into a practical learning experience. Most of the steps I’ll be giving you will require proactivity on your path so it means more often than not you’re going to have to instigate action. Thus, you have to learn how to turn what you do into a learning experience. Make sure you are learning something from it, no matter what that thing is. This step also needs you to always have an open mind. Don’t assume. Be open to new things and new ideas.

HOW TO OVERCOME PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION

In my life, I have come to discover that people have problems and closeted issues they are not proud of. They have problems they think they cannot deal with or issues they are too afraid to face. Many times, they do not even know how to face these issues. The issues are addictions and they are ruining lives and relationships daily. Of all the issues I know, PORNOGRAPHY seems to be the most prominent and rampart yet, the one people least admit to. Yeah, porn, as it is popularly called, has damaged several lives, marriages and destinies. The amount of children who have been exposed to pornography is overwhelming to the extent that it is now becoming a global issue. Yet no one seems to be doing much about it. I walk into rooms and then I see a fellow with the guilty look on his face. He’s feeling bad about what he just did; right before I walked in. It is so easy to access porn. Just a click of your mouse and SWOOP, you’re in. With all said and done, people need to know how they can overcome this cankerworm that is eating them up inside. The truth is, some people do not see anything wrong with it. Here are some reasons to stop watching porn in the first place:

Do You Want Your Brain to Work Better? Here's How:

According to Dr. Richard Davidson, "Our personalities, thought patterns and emotional responses are wired into our brains". If your brain works well, your personality will be lovable, your thought pattern will be more impressive and your emotional responses will be more intelligent. So if you wanna learn how to improve your mental faculty and prowess, here's how. All these steps are as cited on Forbes, which is one of the most inspiring websites on earth.

1. Make your home and workplace more optimistic. Let your environment encourage your to be more positive.
2. Learn to express gratitude. Show people you are grateful whenever they do something for you.
3. Learn to compliment others. If you like what that lady's wearing, simply let her know. Compliment people. It will keep you positive and optimistic.
4. Do a mindfulness meditation. Become more self-aware. Choose a time when you feel the most awake and alert, sit upright, concentrate on your breathing, notice the sensations in your body and if you become distracted, simply bring your focus back to your breath.

HOW TO SAVE A LIFE

Gloria is a failure. She’s been a failure all her life. From primary school all through to secondary school, she’d always been an epic fail. She even failed at killing herself!

Gloria’s father has never hesitated to remind her of how much he hated her. He never failed to make her know that he wasn’t proud of her. He had given up. Since her mother’s death, she’d even become worse. Gloria’s father had brought her to yet another university admission exercise. She wanted to try one last time. But yet again, she failed. To her, this was the straw that broke the camel’s back. She headed back to the school’s guest house with her father but her father was too ashamed to be around her so he decided to head out again. This time, Gloria decided it was time to meet her maker. Life wasn’t worth living anymore.

How to Get More Followers on Twitter

1. If you aren’t a celebrity, learn to follow back. Even some celebrities follow back. It’s not nice for someone to ask you for a follow back and you refuse to. Most people will eventually unfollow you ASAP. If you are looking to build your online presence, learn how to follow back when asked to. However, follow back with sense. It is not everyone that you should respond to. 
2. Let your account be known for something. You can’t deny that those we refer to as twitter celebrities usually have a particular thing they are known for. Some of them thrive on controversies. Some other try to start twitter trends or TTs. Some others tweet only inspirational tweets while there are some that like twitfights. Whichever way, make sure you start building an identity for your twitter account now. 

HOW TO BUILD YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

Having a positive self-esteem doesn’t mean you are impervious to criticisms from people. It doesn’t mean you don’t feel hurt when people do bad things to you. It also doesn’t guarantee that you will become successful, but you know what; it will make it easier for you. There’s a fine line between a positive self-esteem and pride. Self-esteem builds your self-confidence. It helps you lead a happier life. It makes you enjoy what you do better, whether you are a student, a worker or even a parent. Having a positive self-esteem adds to you it doesn’t harm you. Positive self-esteem gives you more push and drive in fulfilling your dreams and aspirations. You want to learn how to have a positive self-esteem? Then follow these simple steps:

HOW TO ENHANCE YOUR CREATIVITY

Sometime ago, I had a chat with a friend who thought that there was nothing else that could be created. To him, everything that could be created already existed. I thought to myself “what is this young man saying?” If only he knew the amount of un-invented things lying dormant in only my own mind, talk more of that of others, he wouldn’t say that.

And that is the truth about our present age. There still so many things that are yet to be created and invented. There are dormant ideas that are waiting for their bearers to step out of their “mental comfort zones” and cultivate them. Truth is, there are still so many things that have not been brought into existence. The human mind is unlimited. The human mind is ever developing. Years ago, the thought of man flying into space was only but a far-fetched dream but that’s the reality today.

HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS

It’s good to make friends and keep them- and I’m saying friends, not acquaintances. Friends are people that are there for you when you need them. There’s a difference between friends and acquaintances. Friends stay with you when everyone else walks out the door. Acquaintances are people that you just happen to meet or know but you don’t necessarily have close ties with. Acquaintances are less intimate than friends are. Friends are those people you can share your secrets with and they won’t judge. Your friends even define who you are.

EASY WAYS TO RUN YOUR BUSINESS INTO THE GROUND

These are simple steps on how to kill your business quickly. If you’re wise, you’ll learn from them and do the opposite:

• Treat your customers like crap. This is the fastest way to kill any business, no matter how big it may be. Some businesses are dead even before they start because they refuse to acknowledge their customers. They forget that the customer is the boss and that he can fire you and substitute your business with another person’s. 
• Improper planning, preparation and consideration before taking action. Many business owners just jump into certain decisions that end up being the death sentence of their business.