Read this story from John Maxwell’s Everyone Communicates, Few Connect:
A few years ago, I was
being interviewed on a television talk show. The host held up a couple of my
books and said, “John. I’ve read several of your books, and they are all so
simple.” His tone of voice, body language, and mannerisms made it clear to me
and the audience that he did not mean it as a compliment! My response was
straightforward: “That’s true. The principles in my books are simple to
understand. But they are not always simple to apply”. The audience applauded,
and he conceded that what I said was right.
The idea of that story is this: people think simplicity is
akin to a lack of intellectual vigor or brilliance. Nowadays, people love to sound big and
intelligent and confuse themselves and others with unnecessary vocabulary.
That’s not the way to communicate effectively. Effective communication requires
simplicity. Here’s another story to teach you the importance of simplicity in
communication, also culled from Everyone
Communicates, Few Connect:
A pastor once stood
outside his church after a church service one day to shake hands with members
of his congregation as they exited. One of them commented on his sermon,
saying: “Pastor, you are smarter than Albert Einstein.” The pastor was
surprised and flattered by that statement, but he didn’t know how to respond.
In fact, the more he thought about the comment, the more mystified he was by
it. He couldn’t sleep properly for a week! The following Sunday, he finally
asked the member what he meant by it. “You see,” the man responded, “Albert
Einstein wrote something so difficult that only 10 persons could understand him
at that time. But when you preached, no one could understand you.”
I’ll share yet another story from the book:
A preschool-aged boy
was eating an apple in the backseat of the car. “Daddy”, he said, “why is my
apple turning brown?” The boy’s father explained, “Because after you ate the
skin off, the meat of the apple came in contact with air, which caused it to
oxidize, thus changing its molecular structure and turning it into a different
colour.” There was a long silence, and then the boy asked, “Daddy, are you
talking to me?”
That’s how a lot of us are when we talk to people. We want
to sound intelligent and learned and in the process trade off effective
communication for a brief moment of egotistical satisfaction. Just as we do not
enjoy when professors and teachers bombard us with hard-to-understand material
in class or when the pastor starts to sound too deep for even the angels to comprehend,
we must also learn to keep our conversations and messages simple. That way, our
communication becomes more effective.
Wow...David, this has changed so much about what I thought previously..Keep up
ReplyDeleteThank you. It's like they say, simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.
DeleteNice one. God bless
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